A Mindset, Your Child, Should Habituate

How Children Can develop winning mindset

Do you feel you have a growth mindset? Do you feel that people are born and raised without any change in their abilities and skills, for instance, IQ – such that you remain unchanged for a lifetime? Or do you feel that beliefs and ideas are dynamic over time and that wisdom grows with experience? If your answer to the first question is ‘’yes’’ then you have a ‘’fixed mindset,’’ consequently, if your answer to the second question is ‘’yes’’ then you have a ‘’growth mindset’’.

What is the mindset?

Mindset consists of varieties of habit, and these varieties are developed unconsciously in the kids before the age of 7 as their frequency of mind is not at the same conscious level as an adult. So, these varieties of habit can only bring two kinds of mindset, either problem-oriented or solution-oriented.

1. Problem-Oriented Mindset: 

What is a Problem-Oriented Mindset? The one who always complain as an Adult.

Characteristics or Habits of Problem-Oriented Mindset

Some of the general characteristics include:

  • They endeavor to seek solutions other than struggling to prove that they are right all the time.
  • They go a step further from their conditioning. Kids don’t have a fixed way of thinking, instead, they are always ready to explore better options.
  • They view problems as an opportunity to unravel opportunities as they endeavor to learn from them.
  • They make fair decisions with others in mind as they are aware that their problem solving could lead to problems for others.
  • They have a better understanding of simple and complex issues. They know when to dedicate their mind fully and when to solve the problems through shortcuts.
  • They have a secure connection with people through the power of words in efforts to seek peaceful solutions.
  • They get a distinct understanding of what problem is and the best way to handle it.

How Does This Develop in Kids Unconsciously?

Educators know that problem solving is necessary for a child’s development in their learning process. Leadership studies focus on equipping learners with the same set of skills. Learning in kids starts the moment they hustle their way out in finding a pacifier that fell instead of helping them get it. However, the process is gradual over time. Here are some ways through which your kids develop problem-solving skills. 

  • By encouraging them to play creative games. Kids from all ages develop learning from in the context of playing. A game that involves a challenge and imagination will work well. Eventually, problem-solving will come as a reward.
    • Avail to your kid’s problem-solving skills in a fun way. If it is the culture of your home, making the surmounting challenges for your kids come in a fun way, they will always yearn for it. Always give them a solution while ensuring the ball keep rolling.  
    • Avoid being a ”helicopter parent”. Your kids need some space. Let them make mistakes and learn from them. Let them learn how to move in after the error.
    • Build challenges for your kids. If your kids are getting occasional roadblocks, they will develop skills of making informed decisions hence making them better.
    • Have time to tell problem-solving stories. Get a classic novel for young minds. It will enable the kid to keep in mind problem-solving skills whenever a challenge arises. The stories should also inspire them.
    • Encourage the kids to handle some challenges on their own. Even if not useful, they are worth it. They will learn. Be part of the problem-solving activity. Taking part encourages the kid to soldier on. He will put his wits in the challenge.
    • Give tips on the essential problem-solving tips. You can do this by helping them identify the problem and getting it broken down into parts that are manageable to let them see the problem is solvable.
    • Let your kids know and experience failure. If they don’t fail, they won’t learn.
    • Seek help from your kids from oftenly. It allows your kids to appreciate their capacity to solve problems. Try brainstorming with your kids with daily life challenges. You will get amazing, creative, and imaginative answers, which is an excellent way to grow.

The Disadvantage of Being a Problem-Oriented? 

  • Many them cannot find a solution most of the time.
    • Chances of getting unrest during trouble.
    • May become more selfish than selfless.
    • Challenging to work with others as they complain a lot – chances of fighting with others

2. Solution-Oriented Mindset

The one who understands the problem and find the problem because they saw the things as they are.

They do the things on purpose, stick to it while they know the risk, and always have a backup plan to be out of trouble

  • The Advantage of Being A Solution-Oriented
    • He can find out solutions easily.
    • Works with understanding 
    • He can maintain a balance between being selfish and being selfless as he can think for himself and think for others as well, so there are chances he or she is working friendly as he understands others’ perspectives.

The choice is your either you want to make you child solution-oriented or problem-oriented if you choose to develop your child as solution-oriented you can apply the following method:

  1. keep telling them stories. Kids can learn a lot from the wise story of the great people, and there is a chance that it can inspire them from the examples.
  2. Playing Games: you can buy many toys or games for the kids, which can help them to think out of the box.  Living Well Kids website is having a variety of toys that you can look at as well.
  3. Playing Sports: This is one of the great ways to teach your children to work with the team and make sure they are not over-obsessed with winning they must learn that winning and losing is a part of it and it is just a game the critical thing was understanding and working with the team. One of the main things they must learn is if they can not be the first but can be the best, which means that even if the kids are not winning, but they must give all which can help them to beyond the level. 
  4. Learning Martial Arts: Neurologists believe that your physical body can control the mind. So, teaching your children to defend themselves with compassion, gratitude, patience, and a variety of defensive techniques is the best way. It will enable them to develop focus, strength, discipline calmness. It will power because they understand that effort, pain, consistency, and duration is the currency to be better at anything, and the calm mind with accuracy is the solution to problems.
  5. Parents Must become example: Kids look at you all the time.


Growth of mindset refers to how an individual embraces challenges, takes responsibility, and faces upcoming setbacks right from their words to the actions and the effort put in the path towards handling the mystery.

By choosing to dedicate more efforts to build the mindset, you will be making your mental processes work for you, giving you a likelihood for better results you would be yearning for in the long run and the life you would want to live. 

Written By:

Ann Wawira


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